Often our lack of self-confidence comes from the fact that we don’t feel
good in our skin. We have a few extra kilos which makes us want to
hide. We don’t care much about how we dress. Our haircut is out of
fashion. Our skin not taken care of. No make up. And so on…
Compare it to models and celebrities. They feel beautiful, they feel sexy and attractive. It boosts their confidence!
2). Accept compliments
Imagine somebody tells you, you look really nice. What would you respond?
Does “Oh, it’s an old dress.” or “Oh, I actually feel quite tired today” sound familiar to you?
What do you usually say when somebody pays you a compliment?
We rarely just accept a compliment. We rarely say “Thank you” without any buts.
But think about it. If somebody takes time to tell you something nice,
it’s because they think that. Why can’t you just accept a nice word? Why
are you tempted to downplay it? If you did a good job, take ownership
of it. Embrace it! Allow yourself to believe in all the good things
people tell you. It’s the easiest, and all for free, way to boost your
confidence.
3). Appreciate what you’ve already achieved
Our confidence is dependent oh how much we believe we are successful.
If you don’t notice successes in your life, your self-confidence is
likely to be low. How can you believe you are a successful person?
No matter where you are now, I can guarantee you that you’ve achieved much more than you think.
We tend to look in the future and always compare ourselves to that
better version of ourselves we’d like to be. Or that we need to be in
order to achieve our goals. You look into the future where your perfect
self has tons of money, happy family and a beautiful home. Then you look
back at now and get depressed and you start feeling like a failure for
being so far from your dreams.
4). Body language
Confident people have a different body language. They walk tall. They
keep their head up. They look into the eyes of others. They also keep
their body open.
Whenever we feel bad about ourselves, we feel down or hurt, we tend to
close down. And not just emotionally but physically too. We try to
become as small as positive, so people don’t notice us. We curl up, so
we limit the surface of exposure.
5). Speak loud
You probably have noticed it yourself in meetings. There is always that
one guys, the loudest of all, very self-confident, maybe sometimes
arrogant, who doesn’t care much about what others think. And then there
are those who don’t talk much, they stay quiet, and even when asked –
they speak in such a way that people can’t really hear them.
Next time you’re in a meeting speak up, project your voice, be loud.
You’ll see what kind of an impact it has on your confidence.
6). Dress smart
If you ever lack confidence, the easiest way to boost it by dressing
like an authority. If you’re perceived like somebody important, you will
start feeling like one!
Smart outfit is an international symbol of status, so no matter in which country you are, you can always wear it.
Things such as suits, shirts, nice shoes, accessories, gadgets – they all add to our confidence.
7). Fake it till you make it
When people act in a self-confident way towards others, they actually
feel more self-confident themselves. This is one of the most amazing
rules in our lives. If you want to have something, act as if you already
have it.
8). Use Positive affirmation
To feel more self-confident, you can use positive affirmation – positive
statements that are meant to reprogram your mind to seeing yourself in a
better light.
These include statements such as: “I am worthy”, “I’m a great leader”, “Everybody likes me”, and so.
There are a few ways to do it. You can write down your own mantra and
repeat it to yourself every morning (or every evening before going to
bed).
9). Sit in the front row
When do you usually sit at big events? Do you rush to take a seat in the first row or do you rather go in the back?
My bet is the latter, just like many other people do. the reason for it
is that we don’t want attention on us. We’d rather hide in the back, so
we don’t risk being pulled on stage or asked a question.
But let me ask you something. Who usually sits in the first row of
all official company meetings? Who sits in the first row of fashion
shows? The most important people.
10). Leverage your strengths
If you keep focusing on your shortcomings, sooner or later you will lose
much of your confidence After all, if there are so many things you’re
bad at, and so many mistakes you’ve made, then where is that confidence
going to come from?
Rather than thinking of what you’re bad at and working on that, embrace
your strengths. You might be awesome at public speaking, or a great
cook, or a very talented businessman. Look at all areas of your life.
This will help you believe in how good you are and increase your value.
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